What percentage of known affairs would you guess ultimately end in divorce?

Probably half the divorces out there involved either an affair or a desire to end the marriage to start a new relationship.

Its impossible to say for certain as many divorces are brought in states that have no-fault divorce laws.

However, all that said, statistically, as a volunteer mediator, so far my tabulations run about a little over half the affairs involve wives not husbands, and they are usually the filers.

All-in-all, though, a better proportion of divorces when it gets down to the nitty gritty involve worse issues than affairs. Spousal abuse, emotional and physical neglect, financial abuses and neglect, child abuse or neglect, and of course affairs to play a part too.

The affair is usually a symptom of a bad marriage but not always.

I will also say that many of the mediated cases went to reconciliation and a good portion of them involved affairs.

So I can’t say for certain one way or the other.

I think women are more forgiving and men can convince women that it will never happen again. I think men are less forgiving. I know that when I discovered that my husband was having an affair, and that was the reason he filed for divorce, that it was a done deal for me. He didn’t give me an honest answer when I asked him if there was another woman. He tried to make it seem like it was my fault. When I discovered that he was lying, I knew that I was done with him forever. I don’t want a liar in my life.